Tue 11 Dec 2018

A Simple Script for Suggesting Mediation

Posted by Guest.Author

Sometimes the hardest part of mediation is convincing the other person in your conflict to look into it. For that reason, we've provided this simple template for starting the conversation about trying mediation. It's based on suggestions given by Vancouver-based RRM, Darrin Hotte. 

As Darrin suggests, have a conversation with the other person either by writing an email, calling them, or speaking with them in person. Then, with all the gentleness, respect, and humility you can muster, say something like this:

Template for Suggesting Mediation

Hi [first name];

We have this dispute over ________. We can't get through this without some help. I'd like to try mediation, and here's why:

• It is quick,
• We are in control of the outcomes,
• It is really cost-effective, and
• It's private.

I think that could work for us, and I am committed to working with you to find some solutions so we can move on. Is that something you'd be interested in? 

I took a look at the Mediate BC directory and have found these Registered Roster Mediators (RRMs) who I think would be good for our dispute:

• [RRM name] insert hyperlink from the directory
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Please let me know which of these RRMs you prefer. If none of them are suitable, feel free to search through the Mediate BC directory and offer some more options. I believe we can find one who we will both be comfortable working with.

If you have any questions or concerns about mediation, Mediate BC has plenty of information on its website. 

Sincerely,